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Post by shortandproud on Jul 3, 2018 0:13:17 GMT
So I was at a family reunion playing pool with my family members, and the topic of my grandpa's prowess came up. In the story, my dad described him as "This little guy, who was like 5'6", you would watch him hustle these big guys, it was shocking". What does his height have to do with it? The reach of the shots? Why did he even need to say anything.Anyway, This was telling because it was his son who was the heightist and didn't want him to outperform him, not a random taller man. It seems like he just was angry that a shorter guy was better at something.
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Post by shortandproud on Jul 3, 2018 0:20:05 GMT
My dad has also said that I'm the one who's height obsessed, and has said "women will never be attracted to you if you keep focusing on your height" and "I'm sick of hearing you complain about your height all day".
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Post by anthony on Jul 19, 2018 20:14:48 GMT
My dad has also said that I'm the one who's height obsessed, and has said "women will never be attracted to you if you keep focusing on your height" and "I'm sick of hearing you complain about your height all day". In my experience, it doesn't matter. I was blind to the disadvantages of my stature for decades. I always figured it was just a minor handicap, with certain people, and I was awesome enough in other ways that made up for it. I truly believed all that, was confident and assertive because of that belief. I made excuses for the way people treated me that minimized the impact of being 5'4", and placed it on myself, or other factors. It was only certain blindingly obvious things in my 40s that made me start wondering, and researching online, to find out how the common factor in most of my "failures" was always height. It never entered my mind to obsess about it before that. Even when people (especially women, and employers) came right out and admitted they were discriminating against me because of my height. So no, the biggest fallacy I see is this backwards idea that short people somehow sabotage themselves because they see themselves as short. It doesn't change anything even if you're completely oblivious to it, and truly believe that it doesn't matter. |
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Post by anthony on Jul 20, 2018 19:19:10 GMT
Further to my last post, I guess what I'm trying to say is reflected somewhat in the rules on this site. Specifically two bits:
What your dad said to you is a variation on these. Implied in his words is that women somehow will be attracted to you if you're confident and positive. You've managed to illustrate a perfect example of how this plays out in real life. It is a form of heightism itself, and a tough one to deal with. I know, now that I've woken up to just how prevalent my experiences of height discrimination have been my whole life, and stopped denying them and pretending it was always that elusive "something else I was missing," I can't talk about it with anyone either. People even get angry about it, and nobody wants to hear it, even if it's just me telling a single story about a clear-cut example.
In fact, that's something I'd love to figure out. How do you approach this subject, so you can at least get things off your chest, without getting this kind of reaction? Like I said before, my coping mechanism so far has been writing. Something like a memoir of all the situations in my life where a second look clearly shows an instance of heightism that I was just blind to at the time. It helps, but it's doing nothing to raise any kind of awareness, and it's all kept to myself, because I know that other people refuse to accept any of it.
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Post by anthony on Jul 21, 2018 16:27:17 GMT
It's acceptable everywhere, but lately, the media (another problem) is exacerbating the problem in their war on men, by using short men as targets of wanton and malicious labeling, knowing as they do, that short men are the easiest group of men to attack. This is SO true. It's another one of those things that I "feel" is true, that's hard to spot, and hard to look at and know you're not imagining it. But it makes all the sense in the world. Why wouldn't it? I've gotten physically attacked by girls in high school that I never even interacted with, because they were angry about the way guys treated them, and they wanted to take it out on someone. Fast forward and zoom out to a wider stage, and that's exactly how I'd expect it to play out. Has anyone done any studies, or made any videos that illustrate this effect? I know I've seen it, and I notice I'm always the first guy to get strongly lectured whenever feminists are around, for example, but I'd appreciate a "look how often this happens" eye-opener on the subject. |
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