When you are in a situation in which you are with a tall person and a second tall person comes along and starts a conversation, have you ever noticed that the second tall person will only look at the tall person with you and not you, even though the second tall person is (supposedly) "talking to both of you"? I think that this is indicative of what normals and tallers think of us.
Post by Heightism Report on May 7, 2020 4:29:10 GMT
Don't you know it! It's quite the fascinating phenomenon. Before I even considered addressing heightism, the exact circumstance you speak of happened to me so many times that I knew it was no mere coincidence. You'd think that the two talls would be in competition with one another, but they seem to instinctively both pivot in the direction that shields you from remaining in the conversation. I guess that there is so much extra respect and unearned accolades floating around that they don't need to compete for it. The fact that they are in agreement over this "arbitrary indignity" (as SFTS says) is evidence that they don't merely see themselves as superior individuals, they see themselves as a superior group. It's quite the opposite compared to the way short men view themselves. I think the other end of it is what SFTS stated about only giving respect to those on their "level." It's an embarrassment for them to lessen their social status by standing around talking to a short man, so it's a breath of fresh air when another tall enters the room. They live their whole lives bathing in unwarranted social status, so they automatically(or intentionally) discard anything(and anyone) that lessens this status.
I have a similar story from five or so years ago that fits with this discussion.
I was in a convenience store one day. I was at one register, and there was a loud, tall customer at the other register. As I'm walking toward the door, I see another tall guy in the parking lot walking toward the door. Both of the tall guys I'm referring to were in the 6'2-6'4 range. I arrive at the door before the tall guy who is trying to enter the store. As I open the door, the door flies open much faster than I was anticipating. I was confused for a few seconds, and then, out of the corner of my eye, I see an arm above my head and realize that the loud tall from inside had reached over my head to push the door open. I guess he thought a little shrimp like myself didn't have the power to open the door in grandiose fashion that was befitting of the tall man who was entering the store. Before I even totally figured-out what was going-on those two locked eyes like two long lost brothers and they were just thrilled to see each other.
Their conversation went something like
"How's it going, sir?"
"Hey man....it'll be going a lot better when I get this six pack."
"I hear that."
And then, they both laughed and shook hands in a way that would make you think they'd each just met a revered historical figure. Now, the thing is, right when the other guy reached over me and shoved the door open, I took one step outside, turned around and gave him a "Whats the problem" look, but he didn't notice because he was so enamored with the other tall man.
It's crazy to think that they more than likely didn't know each other. Their whole conversation was just stock chit-chat that strangers have with one another and didn't leave the impression that they were acquaintances. They really love to celebrate themselves, and when at-least two of them get together, they are absolutely beaming to be in the presence of another "real man" who lives the good life.
Interesting. I’m not the kind of guy who likes to get involved in vocal conversations, because it’s often difficult for me to understand their speech, so I end up feeling stupid if I give them the wrong answer. Still, I’m not gonna lie, they did ignore me and left me out of conversations many times before. I didn’t mind it, but it still would’ve been nice if I didn’t feel too left out. I have a feeling if I were a taller deaf guy, they would’ve made sure I understood what they were talking about. My girlfriend experienced the same thing, like getting ignored because she’s deaf, and she’s been left out of conversations many times before, but she is 5’1”, so maybe her height something to do with it, too.
I have been left out of conversations a million times before so I know exactly how it feels. I always thought my situation has been mainly because I’m deaf, but now... I’m just not so sure anymore. This has me wondering if I was a deaf 6’3”, would they have had me ignored?
I grew up wishing I was hearing. Well, now I realized that that wish wouldn’t make a difference, because my short height would’ve still put me in the same situation of being ignored.
What I've noticed is that if you are with a taller, and nobody else is around, the taller will look at you when he talks to you, and he will treat you with respect and dignity. This heightism only happens when a short person is initially with a tall person, and ANOTHER tall person join the two of you.
Have you noticed how tallers WILL look at you when talking to you if it is ONLY the two of you there?