Women insulting short men being written off as a "shit test"
Mar 20, 2020 2:23:27 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2020 2:23:27 GMT
I've seen this widespread phenomenon where women get a pass on vitriol towards short men by it being brushed off of as "shit testing" when a short man posts a screenshot of a heightist woman from online dating or talks about a rejectiono based on height. Other short men will full on critique how he should and shouldn't have reacted, what a good comeback would be, what they would have said when those women are just being pieces of trash in reality and need to be dealt with.
It's obviously another way emotionally wounded garmins frame insults as "not intended to be negative" instead of accepting the truth, and it's extremely naive to think that women showing disgust at your shortness is a "test" and not a very common mentality the media beats into their heads. If women shit test men for their height, shouldn't their be a female version? Oh wait, there isn't, because when a man insults a women when rejecting her, people don't victim blame and focus on her reaction, because women are allowed to be offended /s.
If a man got insulted for their race, looks, or anything besides height, a good amount of people would say the woman doing the insulting was a jerk and they didn't deserve to be with them anyway, not accuse the woman of playing games to see how they would react. When it's a short man, people will only criticize his blunders and ensure the woman doesn't get scrutinized in any way as a heightist. Here is a thread that exemplifies this. Actually, this isn't even a blatant insult, but it's the closest real time example i can find right now and she admitted he wasn't "tall enough" for her. The poster was pretty clingy and overly attached based on the context, so i guess some of them had a point about the approach, but you can see how much people danced around height being a factor and didn't acknowledge the the clear double standards that wouldn't have existed if he were taller.
https://www.reddit.com/r/short/comments/8g1t98/i_was_rejected_by_a_girl_when_she_found_out_about/
So I was chatting with this girl that I found through Tinder. Everything was going fine and were having a fun time chatting through Skype, Snapchat, Tinder, etc. I really thought she liked me because she seemed so interested in me. We would talk for hours without getting bored. Our online relationship went on for about 2 weeks, until we decided to meet up in real life a few days ago. I really loved this girl so obviously I wanted to ask her out. Anyways we meet up, she acted just like she acts online, happy and fun to hang around with. So after a few hours of us chatting, I finally built up the courage to ask her out. I wasn't as nervous as I usually am when asking girls out because I thought she liked me back. Boy was I wrong. Long story short, she first said she only saw me as ''good friend'' but I was having none of it because I know you don't become friends with someone you met through Tinder. You not fooling me. Anyways, I pressed her hard. I told her I wasn't believing her and that she needed to tell me the real reason for rejecting me my handsome ass (ok I didn't say that, I wish I did tho) and sure enough, she admitted it was a lie. Apparently I wasn't tall enough for her. I was thinking WTF, I'm like 10 cm taller her. At that point I was pretty pissed off. I told her we couldn't be friends because a) I had feelings for her and b) she was fake for giving false hope.
Alright this is the end of my rant. I'm sorry for the wall of text, I'm just still pretty pissed off/sad
Here are just a few of the comments that were blaming him, writing it off as a preference, a shit test, and only focusing on his actions. There were valid points about his level of attatchment being high for only 2 weeks, but r/short is a height/heightism forum after all.
what? you cant be overly romantic with women. it just doesnt work. you cant fall in love with a woman after 2 weeks though, thats for damn sure. I will ask how tall you are though
I was going to let that one fly, but yeah, I picked up on the "love" and never met too. That's definitely infatuation, and barely even that. It's more of falling in love with the mental construct that OP created in his own mind. Truth is he didn't know this girl well enough to have any real feelings at all.
Holy shit. What a train wreck this was to read. When it comes to meeting women on tinder you did literally everything wrong...
Was a shit test and you failed. If you were "in love" with her after 2 weeks, it was already over. She had already reached pedestal status without doing shit.
Biggest reason I don't believe in online dating. There is simply no way to know if you're going to have real chemistry when you meet face to face.
Yea...because the height isn't the biggest reason you're being screened out, it's the "chemistry" 99% of women wouldn't feel in the first place for a man their height or shorter.
It's obviously another way emotionally wounded garmins frame insults as "not intended to be negative" instead of accepting the truth, and it's extremely naive to think that women showing disgust at your shortness is a "test" and not a very common mentality the media beats into their heads. If women shit test men for their height, shouldn't their be a female version? Oh wait, there isn't, because when a man insults a women when rejecting her, people don't victim blame and focus on her reaction, because women are allowed to be offended /s.
If a man got insulted for their race, looks, or anything besides height, a good amount of people would say the woman doing the insulting was a jerk and they didn't deserve to be with them anyway, not accuse the woman of playing games to see how they would react. When it's a short man, people will only criticize his blunders and ensure the woman doesn't get scrutinized in any way as a heightist. Here is a thread that exemplifies this. Actually, this isn't even a blatant insult, but it's the closest real time example i can find right now and she admitted he wasn't "tall enough" for her. The poster was pretty clingy and overly attached based on the context, so i guess some of them had a point about the approach, but you can see how much people danced around height being a factor and didn't acknowledge the the clear double standards that wouldn't have existed if he were taller.
https://www.reddit.com/r/short/comments/8g1t98/i_was_rejected_by_a_girl_when_she_found_out_about/
So I was chatting with this girl that I found through Tinder. Everything was going fine and were having a fun time chatting through Skype, Snapchat, Tinder, etc. I really thought she liked me because she seemed so interested in me. We would talk for hours without getting bored. Our online relationship went on for about 2 weeks, until we decided to meet up in real life a few days ago. I really loved this girl so obviously I wanted to ask her out. Anyways we meet up, she acted just like she acts online, happy and fun to hang around with. So after a few hours of us chatting, I finally built up the courage to ask her out. I wasn't as nervous as I usually am when asking girls out because I thought she liked me back. Boy was I wrong. Long story short, she first said she only saw me as ''good friend'' but I was having none of it because I know you don't become friends with someone you met through Tinder. You not fooling me. Anyways, I pressed her hard. I told her I wasn't believing her and that she needed to tell me the real reason for rejecting me my handsome ass (ok I didn't say that, I wish I did tho) and sure enough, she admitted it was a lie. Apparently I wasn't tall enough for her. I was thinking WTF, I'm like 10 cm taller her. At that point I was pretty pissed off. I told her we couldn't be friends because a) I had feelings for her and b) she was fake for giving false hope.
Alright this is the end of my rant. I'm sorry for the wall of text, I'm just still pretty pissed off/sad
Here are just a few of the comments that were blaming him, writing it off as a preference, a shit test, and only focusing on his actions. There were valid points about his level of attatchment being high for only 2 weeks, but r/short is a height/heightism forum after all.
what? you cant be overly romantic with women. it just doesnt work. you cant fall in love with a woman after 2 weeks though, thats for damn sure. I will ask how tall you are though
I was going to let that one fly, but yeah, I picked up on the "love" and never met too. That's definitely infatuation, and barely even that. It's more of falling in love with the mental construct that OP created in his own mind. Truth is he didn't know this girl well enough to have any real feelings at all.
Holy shit. What a train wreck this was to read. When it comes to meeting women on tinder you did literally everything wrong...
Was a shit test and you failed. If you were "in love" with her after 2 weeks, it was already over. She had already reached pedestal status without doing shit.
Biggest reason I don't believe in online dating. There is simply no way to know if you're going to have real chemistry when you meet face to face.
Yea...because the height isn't the biggest reason you're being screened out, it's the "chemistry" 99% of women wouldn't feel in the first place for a man their height or shorter.