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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2019 17:12:14 GMT
https://www.reddit.com/r/short/comments/cyjwk1/was_what_i_said_fucked_up_when_my_suitemate_made/
A 5’5” male on r/short called his tall friend the n-word after getting mocked by him and another taller and he gets swarmed by garmins and scolded for “going too far”. For fucks sake, Garmins have no place lecturing someone on morals and “not letting it get to you” when they obviously let heightism get to them by siding with the tall man and believe short men should stfu.
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Post by Heightism Report on Sept 4, 2019 8:00:39 GMT
I have several comments on this.
First, if the heightist would've kept his mouth shut, he would've never been insulted. As they say, "talk shit, get hit" and if this was just standard trash talk, he can't get offended when someone responds in kind.
Also, the comments that were made such as "you'll never get a beautiful girl" "you have short man syndrome" etc aren't jokes, they're just flat-out statements that the short guy is inferior and has an ingrained psychological flaw. What's funny about any of that? Tallers always hide behind the "these are just jokes" excuse to get away with saying anything they want about short men, but when a short man responds in kind, their words are scrutinized heavily and others rally to put the short man back in his place, which is what is happening on r/short and is also what happened when the incident occurred. Notice how someone else chimed-in and called OP "Mini Hercules." This wasn't a compliment, it was an insult stating that OP is a comical wannabe big, little guy
Now, as far as the name OP called the heightist, I've always stated that when we confront heightism, we shouldn't take on the weight of other social issues because it provides an easy distraction that people will use to take the focus off heightism and heightists. Any time you use the word that OP used, you've completely lost your chance to control the narrative because people will summon the wagons to defend against that word. I don't believe in parsing our words for the benefit of others in most cases, but I also don't believe in lobbing softballs that people will use to take the focus away from heightism. The only time you should use that word is if you want to spend the next few weeks arguing about why you think it is ok to use that word. Absolutely no one is going to want to discuss heightism if the chance to rally against that word presents itself.
In all honesty, people aren't going to listen to any short man defending against heightism regardless, but we need to take it upon ourselves to make them squirm a bit more in coming up with a way to dismiss the conversation instead of gift wrapping it for them. The overwhelming majority of humans are grossly unprepared to speak about heightism in any competent manner and when they see an easy-out(such as the n-word) they will most definitely focus solely on that instead of thinking the situation through. To reiterate, people aren't going to listen to us regardless, but we also are going to always give-up control of the narrative when we try to shoehorn other social issues into conversations about heightism.
Even if OP was randomly attacked physically by the taller and the n-word was never uttered, those cowards on r/short still wouldn't have defended him, but I'm surprised that OP wasn't aware that the road he took was going to lead exactly where it did. Yes, it's hypocritical that trash talking is supposed to be unfiltered, yet, there are still taboo topics and words, but that's just the state of society, and a short man is the last person that anyone is going to allow to break the rules.
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Post by Heightism Report on Sept 4, 2019 8:11:47 GMT
Heightism happens so many times in the exact way OP described it too. You're just sitting around with a group having a conversation that has nothing to do with height, and once you contribute to the conversation, some taller always has to take some jab seemingly out of left field. They cannot stand a short man trying to contribute to a group. The particular conversation in question was a group of guys talking about when they lost their virginity, thus, the taller felt cheated that a short man was exhibiting masculine behavior by talking about his sexual experiences. Tallers feel entitled to all of the sex that they desire, and they also feel entitled to all of the social praise that is awarded in a group setting, thus, when OP contributed his personal experiences, the taller had to do something to "restore order," which is why he started making jokes at OP's expense. If the short guy would've done this, he would've been told he has short man syndrome, and low and behold, he still got labeled with short man syndrome. This is the exact type of catch-22 that awards tallers a lifetime of unwarranted praise and deference.
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