Post by Heightism Report on Aug 11, 2015 8:11:53 GMT
Dating threads are a hot-button issue in online heightism dialogue, so we need to set some parameters so that the discussion doesn't get hijacked or off-topic. One of the main misrepresentations that heightists use to shut down dialogue about heightism, is to operate on the assumption that everyone who dares to discuss the issue is
"just mad because they can't get laid," even when the discussion isn't about dating. Anyone who has been around discussions on places such as r/short and Twitter, know how ridiculously overplayed this hand is, so we're not going to allow that to happen here. However, there are elements of heightism that are ingrained within the dating issue, and here are a few
-Women are indoctrinated to pursue taller men, and not to "settle for a shorter man." Women who will date, or even prefer short men, are often shamed out of doing so by friends, family, and other associates
-The media's role in perpetrating the Tall Prince Charming archetype, where on the other hand, short men are usually portrayed as "unmanly," unstable, and incapable lovers.
-The popular camaraderie between women where they will use harsh rejections of short men as a way to bond(Check my Twitter @heightismreport to see endless examples of this)
-Shaming of couples who violate the "Male Taller Norm," which indicates that the man is to be taller than the woman in a relationship.
-Women refusing to date short men predicated on beliefs that short men "unfit protectors," "unmasculine," "not real men," or some other negative stereotype about short men.
-Short men being rejected for cosmetic reasons such as "not looking good with a tall woman," "not looking good when a woman wears (x) inch heels," and so on. These rationales for rejection transcend physical preference, and treat the short male like a clothing accessory, thus, they fall under the umbrella of discrimination.
-A tall man's persistence in dating is likely to get him labeled as a "Confident badboy," while a short man who engages in identical behavior is likely to be labeled as "overconfident," "trying too hard," or a "creeper."
Basically, let's keep the discussion about discrimination, not physical preference. We can discuss the discriminatory forces that influence physical preference, but let's not turn this into a forum for merely lamenting that women almost universally prefer tall men.
BAD IDEAS FOR DATING TOPICS
-I'm (x) ft (x) inches tall, and (x) years old. If I grow a few inches, will women like me?
-I know a guy who is 5'3, and he gets women all the time
-What country can I move to where women will like me?
-I'm short and I have no issues in dating, thus, there must be something wrong with the rest of you, and all of the studies are wrong because my personal experience trumps all studies.
THIS IS NOT A DATING ADVICE FORUM!!!! Once again, talk about the discriminatory factors that influence the dating issue, studies on the issue of dating as a short person, discriminatory instances that you have faced personally, or maybe how you feel being short has affected you in the dating world. DO NOT turn this into Dating Central, do not paint yourself out to be the resident romance expert, pickup artist, or an "inspiration to all short men" because of your sexual conquests, and DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT automatically assuming that someone has dating issues, confidence issues, or some other discriminatory notion just because they discuss the role of height in dating. This type of rationale absolutely poison's society's ability to think objectively, and we're only going to allow critical thinking on this forum.
"just mad because they can't get laid," even when the discussion isn't about dating. Anyone who has been around discussions on places such as r/short and Twitter, know how ridiculously overplayed this hand is, so we're not going to allow that to happen here. However, there are elements of heightism that are ingrained within the dating issue, and here are a few
-Women are indoctrinated to pursue taller men, and not to "settle for a shorter man." Women who will date, or even prefer short men, are often shamed out of doing so by friends, family, and other associates
-The media's role in perpetrating the Tall Prince Charming archetype, where on the other hand, short men are usually portrayed as "unmanly," unstable, and incapable lovers.
-The popular camaraderie between women where they will use harsh rejections of short men as a way to bond(Check my Twitter @heightismreport to see endless examples of this)
-Shaming of couples who violate the "Male Taller Norm," which indicates that the man is to be taller than the woman in a relationship.
-Women refusing to date short men predicated on beliefs that short men "unfit protectors," "unmasculine," "not real men," or some other negative stereotype about short men.
-Short men being rejected for cosmetic reasons such as "not looking good with a tall woman," "not looking good when a woman wears (x) inch heels," and so on. These rationales for rejection transcend physical preference, and treat the short male like a clothing accessory, thus, they fall under the umbrella of discrimination.
-A tall man's persistence in dating is likely to get him labeled as a "Confident badboy," while a short man who engages in identical behavior is likely to be labeled as "overconfident," "trying too hard," or a "creeper."
Basically, let's keep the discussion about discrimination, not physical preference. We can discuss the discriminatory forces that influence physical preference, but let's not turn this into a forum for merely lamenting that women almost universally prefer tall men.
BAD IDEAS FOR DATING TOPICS
-I'm (x) ft (x) inches tall, and (x) years old. If I grow a few inches, will women like me?
-I know a guy who is 5'3, and he gets women all the time
-What country can I move to where women will like me?
-I'm short and I have no issues in dating, thus, there must be something wrong with the rest of you, and all of the studies are wrong because my personal experience trumps all studies.
THIS IS NOT A DATING ADVICE FORUM!!!! Once again, talk about the discriminatory factors that influence the dating issue, studies on the issue of dating as a short person, discriminatory instances that you have faced personally, or maybe how you feel being short has affected you in the dating world. DO NOT turn this into Dating Central, do not paint yourself out to be the resident romance expert, pickup artist, or an "inspiration to all short men" because of your sexual conquests, and DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT automatically assuming that someone has dating issues, confidence issues, or some other discriminatory notion just because they discuss the role of height in dating. This type of rationale absolutely poison's society's ability to think objectively, and we're only going to allow critical thinking on this forum.